When it rains, it pours

Rerun pt 2
No details, no names but there are two little people that are a big part of my life and one big person that also typically is in the equation. Five years ago I made a decision that would affect me for years to come and if that decision causes me to be single forever, sigh, that may be just what was intended for me. If I do get married, its not gonna be mom, that's a given, too much history, too much water under the bridge. However having what appears to be an atypical reasonable friendship with mom makes dealing with the kiddy issues a lot easier for us and the kids. This is our case, obviously not the case with everyone.

I've made some decisions lately that would put me somewhat in direction contradiction with myself but my thought processes are that if it's a decision that I feel I have to make for myself, it's one thing, but if it's a decision that someone attempts to make for me then it's something completely different. What is a family unit? Is it a mom and dad married and living under one roof together or is it a man and woman focusing on the development of a child or children and doing so together when possible whether they be married, separated or otherwise. Does it have to be all or none?

If I can ever answer those questions, I guess I'll know my true fate.